5 Reasons Why Doing the Dishes Is So Hard + Solutions For Each

Updated: Aug 12

How are you currently feeling towards doing the dishes? 

A. Just fine! It doesn’t bother me.

B. I struggle with doing them sometimes, but I am managing.

C. Dishes are the bain of my existence! They are stressful & overwhelming.


...I asked this question on a recent Instagram post, and, just as I suspected, a huge number of people answered "C". You see, the biggest struggles people face on a healing journey involve the application of the information, and all of the details to sort out around that.

When I first adopted a healing protocol, it felt like I LIVED in the kitchen. Cooking/preparing every meal at home requires a lot of dish washing.⠀

Over the years I’ve had to learn how to simplify those processes so that I could have more time for life. I've also learned, after working with so many people one-on-one, that dishes are a hugely common source of stress and overwhelm, and there are a variety of reasons for that.

Believe it or not, struggling with dishes is actually such a deep topic that it needed a whole blog post to be broken down.

We all have different factors that can make chores like the dishes more or less challenging, including:

  • Number of people in a household using dishes

  • Whether we work or are at home full-time

  • The state of our energy levels 

  • Our physical condition; how easy it is to stand/bend over a lot

  • How much help we have

  • Whether or not we have a dishwasher

  • How many other responsibilities we have/how much time we have available 

  • Our emotional and mental states of being

  • Our pre-existing habits

...and more. That being said, there is always a way to make it work, and it is always worth it.

I am a problem-solver, and in my practice, I see a lot of patterns. When it comes to struggling with doing the extra chores that come along with a healing lifestyle, like doing the dishes, there are 5 main root cause problems. I have broken them down for you here, along with solutions for each cause, to help you work out the kinks. We all benefit greatly from more ease and sustainability, so it's very much worth diving into.

Medical Medium Practitioner
Heal with Amber | Alternative Medicine + Holistic Health

Problem #1: Low Energy

The biggest reason that dishes, and other tasks that pile up more on a healing journey, feel overwhelming is due to fatigue, physical (neurological) weakness, and/or depression. If you are one of the many who barely have the energy to get out of bed in the morning, please know that this is not your fault. This type of fatigue (neurological) is viral.


> Prioritize Energy Concerns in your Protocol.

Make sure that you are properly addressing your energy issues through your healing protocol. Because fatigue, weakness, and depression all affect your ability to apply the healing information into your life that will get you better, these are the symptoms I often focus on prioritizing first with my clients. 

  • Top foods for fatigue: apricots, avocados, berries, grapes, mangoes, oranges, tangerines, asparagus, celery, cucumbers, and sweet potatoes.

  • Top herbs/spices for fatigue: rosemary, sage, thyme, oregano, cilantro, turmeric, ginger, rose hips, and burdock root.

  • Top supplements for fatigue: celeryforce, 5-MTHF, nascent iodine, licorice root, chaga, ashwagandha, lemonbalm, barleygrass juice powder, and spirulina. Make sure to get the right brands from the Medical Medium supplement directory.

> Energy Budget. 

When you have neurological fatigue, you have to think of your daily allowance of energy like a certain amount of money. If you overspend, you’re going to be in the negative. Considering that you only have a certain amount of energy to spend each day, reflect on where all of it is being spent. Mental/emotional energy counts! Your brain uses a ton of glucose (energy). You may want to document a week of energy usage - this will give you some really good clarity as to where exactly you are spending your energy. The point of this exercise is to identify areas where energy is being used on tasks that aren't absolutely essential. Scrolling through Instagram, for example, is very stimulating and actually uses up a lot of energy. So if find that you are spending an hour per day on social media, try limiting yourself to 15 minutes. This can free up energy that you can spend on essential tasks, like food prep and doing the dishes.

> Delegate.

When you’re really deep in fatigue, it’s important to get all of the help and support that you can to remove tasks from your plate that are not absolutely essential. If you have family or friends who can assist with tasks like doing the dishes, I encourage you to ask for help and communicate honestly about how challenging these tasks are for you to complete on your own right now and how much their help would mean to you. If you are married, in a domestic partnership, and/or have children, sometimes it’s important to ask for more from your partner. Give your kids jobs. You need all of the energy you can get for healing so that you can show up for your loved ones. If you keep trying to push yourself to do more than your body can handle, this will induce adrenaline, which will prevent your ability to move forward with your health, and that doesn’t help anyone.

It's not always easy to ask for help, and often it makes us feel guilty when we aren’t sure that there is an end in sight to our suffering that would allow us to repay someone for their help. Please know, first of all, that due to Universal laws, energy is actually never out of balance. What someone gives will always come back to them, even if not in this lifetime. I have received intuitive messages about people whom I have given a ton of my energy to in this lifetime. My guides informed me that these people supported me very deeply in other lifetimes, and that I was just repaying them for it in this lifetime. That’s why, even though I knew there wasn’t an equal exchange of energy between us, it felt right at the time. It really is a beautiful thing, if you think about it. That being said, I believe in you, and I believe in your capacity to heal, to get your energy back, and to be able to do what you want the freedom to be able to do in this lifetime. When I was really sick and super fatigued, my ex-boyfriend helped me so much. He cleaned my apartment, did my dishes, helped make my food a lot of the time, and always picked me up when I was struggling. It was incredible, it was angelic, and it was the first time I had ever experienced support like this. I carried guilt for a long time because the focus of our relationship ended up being on me. A year later, he ended up in a situation that neither one of us could have foreseen that presented an opportunity to help him, in a completely different way, for a long time. Another year later, even after we had broken up, he experienced a trauma that I was so eager to be able to support him with in many different ways. Sometimes, in relationships, the scales tip out of balance in one direction for a while (one person needs a lot more from the other) for a while, and then they can tip back in the other direction later on. 

If you have access to help, utilize it, but it is also totally possible to get through this without help if you don't. For the overwhelming majority of my healing journey, I did not have help. I know that many of you out there feel very alone in your healing, and if this is you, I recommended working with the Angel of Solidarity. Anthony talks about her in his book, Life-Changing Foods (page 300).

Problem #2: Anxiety, Unresolved Trauma, & Suppression

Having chronic illness is a form of trauma. Depending on the severity, the weight of other traumas we may have experienced in our lives, the condition of our Spirit and our Soul, the amount of heavy metals in the brain (which carry and amplify trauma), and more, some people end up developing a coping mechanism of dissociating with their bodies and therefore dissociate from being present. Often the struggle with doing dishes, and other mundane household tasks, exists because it requires us to be present. For a lot of people, it’s one of the only things that they do in a day that doesn’t stimulate them. When you are present in the moment, all that is normally suppressed by the usual stimulation will surface - that can be racing thoughts, very uncomfortable symptoms we usually distract ourselves from, pain, tension, difficult emotions, and more….and that can be very triggering and overwhelming.